Advice on How to Purify the Heart Through Rightful Behavior

Oh my children, my fellow travelers on the path of truth! This path is the path of "teskiye i kalb", the purification of the heart from the filth of disharmony, excess, the unlawful, the immoral sins, and the beautification and the illumination of the heart by harmony, order, good measure, morality and perfect be-havior. The ones who know say, "Sufism is leaving bad manners, bad conduct, bad character and immorality, and entering good manners, perfect character and morality".

Our Master the Beloved of Allah (whom Allah praises in His Qur’an, "Truly you are blessed with the best of conduct.") says, as reported by Abu Hurayra r.a., "I have been sent to help to perfect the beautiful conduct." Again, reported by Abu Hurayra, he said, “Allah does not beautify His servant’s character and consequently exterior being to make him taste the Hell Fire." The Messenger Allah, s.a.s., addressed himself to Abu Hurayra, r.a., and said, "Oh Abu Hurayra what is enough for you is the good conduct." When Abu Hurayra asked, "What is the good con-duct, oh Messenger of Allah?” our Master answered, "not to aban-don the one who has abandoned you, to forgive the one who has tyrannized you, to feed the one who has made you go hungry."

Anas bin Malik reported that the one blessed with perfect behav-ior said, “He who has a good character has obtained the best of this world and the hereafter." The same authority also reported that our Master, s.a.s., said, "The good servant with beautiful behavior reaches the highest degrees and the highest honor in the hereafter and the one who has bad manners falls to the lowest pit of Hell."

Haz. Ma'muna r.a., reported the Prophet, s.a.s., as saying, "Al-lah considers no sin worse than bad character and behavior be-cause the one who behaves badly before he finishes one sin starts another."

Haz. Aysha, r.a., reported our Master, s.a.s., as saying, “Every sin has a corresponding repentance. Not so for bad conduct be-cause the misbehaving one does a worse sin before he could re-pent for the previous one.”

Haz. Ibn Abas reports the Messenger of Allah, s.a.s., as saying, "Good behavior dissolves one’s errors as water melts ice, and bad character spoils good deeds as vinegar spoils honey."

To cleanse our hearts, to revive our dead hearts is our most im-portant duty in this path because the heart is the king of the realm of our being. The rest of your being obeys unconditionally the orders of that king. The Prophet, s.a.s., says, "Be aware, there is a piece of flesh in this body that when it is proper and in order, your whole being is proper and in order; when it is spoiled, your whole being is spoiled. Know that it is the heart."

The first and the most important step for the reviving and heal-ing of the sick heart is "adab", good behavior. Behavior and character are qualities through which all one’s being becomes manifest. It is possible to educate and change one’s conduct and character and all religious prescriptions, cannons, teachings, rites and devotions are means to that purpose. As everything else, success is in accordance with one’s given ability, talent and nature. Indeed all is as Allah wills, yet the greatest gift which Allah has bestowed upon humankind is that small will by which one may choose, opting for the right, the true, thus re-ceiving the blessing of being in harmony with Allah's will and letting Allah's will be done, or choosing to revolt and attract-ing Allah's curse, anger and punishment.

The source of the education and correction of one’s behavior and one’s character are the forces and energies that Allah has be-stowed on each individual in quantities and qualities according to his lot. There are three such energies:

Nutuk -- the intellectual energy, the force of reasoning which is only capable of dealing with affairs addressing the mind. As the Prophet, s.a.s., said, "There is good in the median," The median of intellectual energy is Hikma, that wisdom which is the ability to discriminate the good from the bad, the right from the wrong, the true from the false. The over-indulgence of the intellectual faculty results in discussion, in arguments and philosophy, for example, trying to interpret the Muteshebihat (allegorical and symbolic verses in the Qur'an), to put forward explanations of the secret of Kader (destiny) or the Zat (the essence of Allah), etc. which are forbidden to us and outside of the realm of the intelligence. The extreme misuse of the faculty of reason leads one to imagination, fantasy and illusion, where there is no separation of the real and the unreal, true and false, right and wrong, and leads one in a diametrically oppo-site direction from the path that this faculty is meant to take one, leading one to misbehavior, bad character and immorality.

Gazab emotional faculty. The energy which Allah has bestowed upon each human being to reject, to fight, and to free himself of that which is ugly, frightful, repellent and harmful. The me-dian and the lawful use of this faculty is called Sheja' -valor, bravery the ability to attack, repel and subdue that which is harmful to one’s being. The exaggerated use of the same faculty leads the distortion of the goal: anger, quarrelsome-ness; the extreme this faculty leads to cowardliness, which is a sickness and sin, preventing one from abolishing hindrances and reaching one’s goal.

Shawa an energy that moves one towards things that are beauti-ful pleasing, beneficial. The median and the right use of this force is called I'ffat chastity, uprightness, with which the being obtains the wishes of its appetite but only that which is lawful and in a lawful way. The excess of desires results in an absence of conscience, shamelessness, wickedness. Further excess leads to Fujur debauchery, taking what pleases the ego without any discrimination or consideration of others. The extreme leads one to a state which is called Humud extinction of all desires whereby nothing gives any pleasure to one but not in a positive sense but because one has been spoiled having tried every pleas-ure and losing care for oneself.

If these three faculties work harmoniously, acting upon condi-tions only within their realm in the right way, neither less nor in excess, the result will be a human being who is wise, valor-ous, honest and upright, qualities, which signify a good charac-ter resulting in good conduct pleasing to Allah.
When there is confusion in the action of these three strengths of the ego, the intellect doing the duty of the emotions, the emotion doing the duty of the intellect and the emotions doing the duty of the desires, the result is bound to be wrong, false and unlawful. We are to watch the operation of these faculties in us. We will often see these disorderly confrontations of wrong actions and excessive reactions. If we are unable to see it ourselves, that which we see in others should serve us as lessons and we should ask ourselves if we are guilty of the same instead of condemning others. We should listen to the criticism, suggestions and advice of our friends and teachers, silencing our pride, arrogance and egotism. We should consider the accusa-tions of our enemies and consider their insults more than the praises of our friends, as enemies truly seek and see and expose our faults. After diagnosing our sickness by applying what we have observed with the touchstone of the Sharia’, which will show us the right and the wrong, lawful and the unlawful, the sick should admit his sickness and cure is hard. 'The greatest hardship is the admission of our weakness and our wrong, then finding the causes of the sickness. This could be the society, one’s friends, even one’s family, outside influences or one’s own wrong doings, ignorance, arrogance, ambition, etc. Then one should try to eliminate these causes, -- change ones place, change one’s life, change one’s self. To change oneself is the hardest. One must be ashamed without making any excuses or hav-ing pity on oneself, to accuse oneself in private and public and to impose on oneself heavy loads of things that are opposite of what one is used to, things which the ego dislikes. If you are stingy, go out and, spend all your money, terrorizing your sense of security. If you are a coward, enter into dangerous situa-tions terrifying your fears, but do not lose the sense of meas-ure. Remember that often sickness is cured by its opposite.

This is called Mujahada - struggle with oneself. Its principles
are to go against the wish and the will of one’s ego, to go against one’s habits, to force one’s will to obey Allah's will by pushing it to work, not for its benefit but for Allah's sake and the benefit of others; also to increase worship and devotion by fasting, extra prayer and meditation and contemplation. This war with one’s ego can only be successful if it is accompanied by contemplation. Contemplation in Sufism is described by the answer of Gabriel, a.s., when the Messenger of Allah asked him what is Ihsan that benevolence of Allah which keeps one clear of sin and impropriety. Gabriel answered, "Ihsan is a gift of Allah which allows you to pray to Him as if you see Him, as, even if you do not see him, He certainly sees you.' Contempla-tion is that state of active awareness of the sight of one’s Lord upon one. In that case that kind of contemplation becomes the source of all good action and becomes the reason of escaping all bad actions. Those are the good servants of Allah who make their accounting before their accounting is made for them. In fact they do their accounting while the act to be accounted for is happening.

Sheikh Tosun Bayral Al Haj Al Jerrahi